That mask that they wear, it gets hot, it gets stuffy, it's suffocating and it's something that they need to take off as quickly as possible. Now this is why they rush you, but the empathy that they were showing in the beginning or the empathy that they show other people in the community, isn't the same thing that happens behind closed doors. I mean they've cried, they've promised you that they'll change and they'll stop cheating. They may have even went to the counseling and the therapy meetings with you, but that didn't last very long now, did it? Either because the counselor didn't take their side and they weren't ganging up against you, or because they still have the same hairline trigger anger issues that they had before, or it didn't last because they never cut off the affair partner. I actually had a client whose husband was cheating on her immediately after those counseling sessions. ALL of them. They fake the empathy. They know exactly what to say and what to do to get back on your good side, and there's this cycle that continues to happen over and over again. You may have even gotten to the point where their tears actually mean nothing to you, they're actually annoying, because you know they're just simply trying to manipulate.
Narcissist don’t know how to authentically empathize